If there is one subject that fascinates me as much as the distinctions of giving women orgasms it’s the subject of “what attracts women to men?”. You might even say the two go hand in hand. Knowing what causes a woman to feel desire towards you is vitally important in getting her to orgasm, yet both topics seem to vastly elude most men today.

Attraction is hardwired into us and happens on a primal level. What sparks attraction and desire in women is very different from what makes us guys feel attraction. To illustrate this difference, lets first look at what attracts men to women as this is a little more obvious.

It’s probably no surprise to you when I tell you that men are hardwired to be attracted to a woman’s physical qualities and most of what sparks attraction (at least initially) is visual. Attraction for men happens in a matter SECONDS. Men decide almost instantly if they are attracted to a woman based on physical qualities that indicate health and fertility.

Indicators of health and fertility are things like breasts, butt, curves, waist/hips, beautiful facial features, hair and youth.

A man will make a value judgement instantly and know if he is attracted to a woman or not based on physical qualities. Just take a look at the picture on the right, you’ve probably already made a judgement of whether or not you find her attractive and you haven’t even heard her speak!

I’m not implying that we are entirely judgmental beasts, however over 80% of what makes a man feel attraction towards a woman (at least initially) is physical and visual.

It’s no secret that men are turned on by a woman’s physical appearance. Entire industries are based on the fact that women want to become more beautiful in order to be attractive to men.

The key thing you need to distinguish here is that men are turned on INSTANTLY like a light switch.

On the other hand, women are hardwired very differently when it comes to attraction. So what attracts women to men?

If you ask men and women in our society you will get a range of answers with a question like this. The same way that we don’t talk about sex and and don’t communicate to share the truths about the amazing levels of orgasms women can achieve, there is also a massive misunderstanding or ignorance to what ignites a deep level of attraction and desire in women.

Men often times make the mistake of thinking attraction is the same for women. It’s close minded to assume that because we’re attracted to a woman’s physical qualities that she must feel the same towards us. However, this ignorance persists, and it leads to a ton of false beliefs about men needing certain physical attributes like a large penis or six pack abs in order to be desirable to women. This couldn’t be farther from the truth, yet it’s a lie so many men in our world indulge in out of a massive misunderstanding of what women are actually attracted to.

The truth of the matter is that women are evolutionarily hardwired to seek out dominant males. By evolutionary terms, women who have sought out dominant males with perceived high social status, have been more likely to pass on their genes to the next generation therefore the trait exists in women today.

So if a woman feels powerful sexual desire to mate with a dominant male, what does she use to determine this if she doesn’t look at physical traits?

Women are hardwired to be attracted to a man’s Behavioral Cues. Behaviors that sub-communicate dominance and high social status will pump up her desire to have sex with that man.

Women unconsciously pick up on behavioral cues that demonstrate characteristics such as:

• Confidence
• Leadership
• Humor and Playfulness
• Powerful Vocal Projection
• Strong Body Language
• Comfort in his own environment
• Indifference towards what people think of him
• Confidence to say what’s on his mind, stand up for himself, and stand out
• Lives by his own standards, and dictates his own sense of reality based off his beliefs and not others
• Passion in life, and a willingness to go for what he wants
• Has concepts of personal boundaries of what he will and will not accept

These characteristics and behavioral cues happen authentically in dominant males with high social status. These behaviors also happen naturally in men who might be labeled “assholes” or “bad boys” and it’s the reason women can’t help but feel desire towards these men.

Now I’m not saying that you have to be a “bad boy” to be attractive to women but you do need to understand what it is about these guys that sparks attraction in women. Over 80% of what makes a woman feel attraction towards a man is behavior based and this is what she uses to screen out the “Wussy Guys” from the “Sex Worthy Guys”.

A key distinction to be made is that attraction is NOT instant for women like it is for men. Attraction happens slowly, like the gradual turn of a volume knob, for women. When you dial up the characteristics of the “Sex Worthy Guy” women can’t help but feel attraction and desire towards you!

To put it bluntly, a Sex Worthy Guy is a man who’s hand doesn’t shake apologetically when he puts it down her pants. A Sex Worthy Guy is a man who will take charge, throw her on the bed, and give her an “it just happened” experience. Women are turned on by men who go for what they want and who are unapologetic about their desires as a man.

Knowing how to keep her attracted is just the tip of the ice berg when it comes to ensuring her ability to orgasm with you long term…

Talk Soon,
Jason Julius