Women love the pleasure that they get from sex, but many don’t often get enough. If you can learn how to make a girl squirt, you can easily give her the best pleasure of her life. Take a minute to think about the best orgasm that you’ve ever had then times this by 100. For a woman, a squirting orgasm is like that and sometimes even more so. Of course, getting this kind of reaction isn’t as easy as it is for men and requires some careful attention and a focus on what you are doing.

Before you can learn how to make a girl squirt, you have to know what you’re working with. A woman’s g spot is the key to success with this move and you have to find it. If you take a finger or two and slide it inside her vagina a couple of inches, facing the front wall, you will find it. Once you are inside, pull your fingers forward a little (like saying ‘come here’) and you’ll feel a rough, spongy patch. This is the g spot and when stimulated, it can produce a squirting orgasm.

To begin your quest for the ultimate squirting orgasm, you have to make sure that your woman is completely relaxed. This can be difficult because women are so mentally involved in the sexual experience. You really have to work hard to clear her mind and get her focused solely on the pleasure that you are creating. It will likely take more time to relax her and build her arousal level than it will to actually cause her to squirt once you have her aroused and relaxed. Be sure to take this very seriously so that you can get the best result every time.

Once she is very aroused (think soaking wet) and relaxed, you can slide a finger or two inside.  If she is tight you might only be able to do one at first.  Put your finger(s) facing the front wall of the vagina and stroke, tap, and massage the g spot. Keep doing this until she passes the point where she feels the urge to pee and she will begin to orgasm, followed by the squirting. She will be writhing with pleasure and making a giant mess, so make sure that you’re also prepared. Even though this can get messy, it’s worth it to maximize her pleasure.

Watch me demonstrate this technique on video!

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-Jason Julius

What’s up guys?  Jason Julius here and I want to make this post to talk to you about using basic erotic massage to bring a woman to orgasm.

What I’m about teach you is not so much a technique but more of a methodology because it’s not so much the technique of this particular massage but rather the principles behind what we’re going to be doing that make the difference in getting the desired outcome, which in this situation is giving our woman a full body vaginal orgasm.

So first we’ll talk about what to do, then we’ll talk about the why. It’s important to understand why this works, and I think you might find it surprising so let’s get started with what to do.

What we’re about to do can be very helpful for giving her her first vaginal orgasm, and especially helpful if she has trouble letting go, this will get her over the edge to let go and have the orgasm.

So here’s what you do…

Lay down a towel on the bed, or where ever works best for you to comfortably give her a massage.  If your a weirdo like me and have a massage table in your bedroom you can certainly use that, but using a bed will work just fine.

The towel is really just optional, but it will prevent the massage oil from running down onto the sheets, and more importantly it will give her a sense that it’s ok to let go and squirt or ejaculate when she has an orgasm.

Next have her lay down on her stomach, fully nude on the towel and tell her to just relax.  Now at this point I would assume that you know that you will also be fully nude while doing the massage, but I thought I better mention it because I could see a few guys trying this out with their jeans on and creating a very awkward moment, so just so we’re clear this is erotic massage and both of you will be nude.

Alright, so if you can turn on some slow sensual music.  This will eliminate any awkward silence while you’re massaging her, and help to get her deeply relaxed.

Now if you’re doing this on a bed the best position for you is to straddle her body and sit directly on her butt so that you can reach up to her shoulders.

You want to apply a lubricant to start the massage.  What I recommend using is Grape Seed Oil.  It’s a great oil used by some of the best massage therapist, it’s very healthy for the skin, it’s made up of Omega 6 fatty acids and Vitamin E, and it’s much lighter than other oils.  Now we’re going to be blending our massage right into vaginal stimulation using the same lubricant.  If you’re going to be using a condom afterward for intercourse make sure to use a water based lubricant.  Yes you can use something like Astroglide for the massage and then go right into vaginal stimulation.  If that’s not a concern then I recommend using 100% pure food grade Grape seed oil that you can find at most grocery stores.  Some Grape Seed Oils that are sold as massage oils have things added to them that are not safe for internal use, so make sure you use the kind you can eat or cook with.  Grape seed oil is the best massage oil, and it’s also the best lubricant to use while stimulating the inside of her vagina.

So you’re sitting on her butt, she’s fully relaxed underneath you, what you want to do is simply pour a little bit of lubricant into your hands first and then begin rubbing her shoulders.  Now as I mentioned we’re not going to get overly concerned with massage technique.  While there’s a lot of value in knowing great technique, and there’s a lot we can do to enhance the sexual experience using massage, I don’t want you to get caught up with that here.

Our goal here is to get her deeply relaxed, get her mind very present, and get her breathing very relaxed as well.

So start out by rubbing her shoulders and neck for about 5-10 minutes, then slowly work your way down her back.  When you get to her butt simply slide your body backward and continue the massage by massaging her butt muscles.

Nothing about the massage at this point is highly sexual, she should be fully relaxed and enjoying the massage with out thinking to much.

Now what we want to do is blend the massage right into vaginal stimulation, while keeping her body relaxed.

Let me say that again because this part is very important…

What we want to do is blend the massage right into vaginal stimulation, while keeping her body relaxed.

Since you already have lubricant on your hands you can seamlessly go from relaxing massage, to rubbing the outside of her vagina, then enter her to stimulate either her G Spot or her A Spot. You can use a simple technique such as our single finger G Spot technique, however remember that since she is on her stomach the front wall of her vagina where here G Spot is located is going to be down rather than up. So make sure you go down and use firm pressure pull down on the front wall of her vagina.

If she starts to move or tense up tell her to just relax and to concentrate on taking deep breathes.  Keep her relaxed and stimulate the inside of her vagina until she has an orgasm.

OK, so basically all we’ve done here is get her body and mind very relaxed by giving her a massage, then we blended that massage right into vaginal stimulation while keeping her body and mind in that relaxed state.

This works like crazy for giving her a vaginal orgasm!  However let’s talk about why this works so well because I think there are some important distinctions to be made here that will give you a deeper understanding of giving women orgasms.

As I mentioned it’s not the massage that’s doing it, but rather it’s the way that massage aligns her body and mind in a way that her body naturally needs to be in in order to orgasm.

It’s a shift in her physiology, what she’s focused on, and the meaning of the situation.

You see, in order to orgasm a woman must be very in the moment.  Her mind needs to be very present.

She needs to have slow deep breathing, however for many women when they experience the sensation of vaginal stimulation their breathing gets shallow without them thinking about it, so keeping her relaxed and concentrating on deep breathes will prevent that.

In order to orgasm her body needs to be very relaxed.  Just like the breathing many women tense their body when they experience the sensation of vaginal stimulation, however in order to orgasm she needs to keep her body relaxed so starting out with her body relaxed and not letting her tense up is important.

This allows for the free flow of endorphins in the body which is critical for orgasm, and many women have built up tension in their body that until it’s released they may not be able to reach their full potential of orgasm.  That’s where massage technique can become more important but we can talk about that in another video.

A very important distinction here is by giving her a massage and blending it into the sexual stimulation it makes it OK for it be “all about her”.  A woman’s natural tendency is to be more of a giver than a receiver, so often times when we go right in and start stimulating her, her mind has a difficult time relaxing because she’s not fully comfortable with the entire focus being on her.  By setting up the dynamic of the situation in such a way that you’re simply giving her a nice massage it makes it easier for her to just relax so by the time you begin stimulating her, her mind won’t throw in any objections.

Getting her very relaxed and very in the moment before we turn it into a sexual experience frees her from the interruption of self limiting self talk in her mind.  Studies have shown that the arousal part of a woman’s brain responds to pornographic images just as much as a man’s brain does, however many women interrupt and actually short circuit their own arousal with self limiting dialogue. When her conscious mind is full of self limiting talk such as “I’m to fat for that”, “that’s to naughty”, “what if I’m not good enough” it’s impossible for her to become fully present to enjoy the orgasm. Women with high self esteem have an easier time reaching orgasm because they are less likely to interrupt the natural process with self limiting dialogue. However we can prevent any of this dialogue from even happening by putting her body and her mind in a state that is aligned to orgasm.

Her body is relaxed, her breathing is deep, her mind is relaxed, and we’re able to stimulate her and get her body to do what it naturally wants to do which is give in and experience a full body orgasm.

It’s important to understand the distinctions of why this works.  If we understand that it’s not just the massage but the various ways it lines up her physiology, her focus, and the meaning of the situation to allow her to orgasm, then we can replicate the result in any variety of ways.

Massage is a great way to start with this.  This method is very simple, yet works great.

Give it a try and I’ll talk to you soon.

- Jason Julius

Hey guys Jason Julius here, I want to write a post quick to talk about Foreplay which is something I get asked about a lot.

I get questions from guys about how to be good at Foreplay, and what all the tips and tricks are for getting a woman’s juices flowing.  This is great because one of the biggest complaints I hear from women is that men don’t spend enough time with foreplay, and in a bit we’ll talk about why foreplay is so important for getting women to orgasm.

So before we get into all of that, first let’s define what exactly Foreplay is and let’s also clearly define what our outcome or goal is for Foreplay because in order to be good at anything you need a clear vision of what the best possible outcome is.

When you think of Foreplay you might imagine all the kissing, hugging, rubbing, licking, massaging, and other fun stuff that happens before sex begins, but there’s also a lot of things happening mentally as well.

My informal definition of Foreplay is “All the mental and physical fun stuff that happens before physical stimulation of the vagina or penis that increases sexual arousal.”

In order to reach Orgasm a woman must be able to get out of here mind and into the moment into a high state of arousal that I call Orgasmic State.  This can be the most difficult part of getting her to orgasm, and is often times completely over looked as part of the equation of great sex. If our goal is to give her full body squirting orgasms then the best possible outcome of Foreplay, or all the stuff that leads up to sexual stimulation, is to get her to Orgasmic state so that she can easily reach orgasm once stimulation begins.

Said differently, our goal of Foreplay is to get her into the fantasy of the moment, get her very present, and get her highly aroused so that she’ll have an easier time letting go to reach orgasm, or have multiple orgasms.

What turns us men on is different from what turns women on.  As men we are very visual creatures, we can see a woman’s breasts or butt and we instantly get aroused and we’re ready to stick it in.

Women need a little bit more time to become aroused because what turns a woman on is very different from what turns on a man.  A woman is turned on more by what she feels and what she imagines.  A woman is turned on by your actions, your behavior, your attitude, and your language.  What turns a woman on is the context of the situation or the fantasy of being desired and taken by a man whom she deeply respects.  When men attempt to forego foreplay and jump right into sex it leaves her little time to get aroused and into the mental state of arousal required in order to orgasm.

Now that doesn’t mean you have to always have lengthy foreplay every time before sex, in fact if you understand this you can maximize foreplay by getting here highly aroused as quickly as possible, so that less time for foreplay is actually necessary.

There’s a lot we can talk about when it comes to Foreplay, however for the purposes of this video I want to talk about 3 key things to include during Foreplay that will make the sexual experience absolutely incredible for any woman you’re with.

The first one is dominance.

Women are turned on by dominant men who take charge and lead in the bedroom.  When you take the masculine dominate role and communicate that to her through your actions, she will go into her natural feminine submissive state.

Women desire to be submissive to a dominate male that they trust and respect.

When it comes to arousal things like dominance, and taking the lead in the bedroom can do for a woman what visually seeing a woman’s breasts, hips, or butt can do for a man.

Guys, all of us are born with the instinct to be dominant, yet cultural conditioning often times covers that up and turns men into habitual nice guys.

This leads to wussy behavior such as approval seeking, and continuously giving up power in order to please her.  While guys typically adapt this supplicating behavior in order to hold on to or gain her affection, this behavior usually has the opposite effect and only serves to turn her off.

After a while she’ll leave him for a “bad boy” and he’s left wondering why she left him after he was so nice to her.  He can’t see that it’s not that she likes a man who behaves or treats her badly rather she’s turned on by his attitude, the way he carries himself, and most importantly how he makes her feel.

Dominance is something that you convey with your behavior or attitude rather than a just a technique.  It’s not about being physically strong rather it’s about taking charge and leading her in the bedroom with your actions.

Let me give you a quick example from my life…

The other night I was out with a woman I had met recently, we were getting along great, things were very physical right from the start so toward the end of the night we went back to my place for some wine.

When we got there I immediately took her by the hand and lead her to my room.  I stood her in front of my bed and put both hands on her head and pulled her in for a hard kiss.  I moved one of my hands to the back of her hair and pulled down slowly but firmly as I continued to kiss her.  Suddenly I pulled her head away from mine and put my hands under her arm pits and literally picked her up and threw her on the bed.  I think you can guess where things escalated to next, but I will tell you that I was able to give her her first vaginal orgasm, she had never even experienced this type of orgasm from her ex-husband who she had had a 5 year relationship with.

When I called her the next day she said “oh my god, I can’t stop thinking about last night.  There’s one thing I can’t stop thinking about”

Now, naturally as a guy the first thing that comes to my mind is when I made her G-Spot swell up and push me out of her and she had her first vaginal orgasm.  She didn’t squirt but I could tell she was ready but just holding back.  But anyway naturally as a guy that’s the first thing that came to mind when she said there was one thing she couldn’t stop thinking about.

But when I asked her what it was that she couldn’t stop thinking about she said “I can’t stop thinking about how you kissed me and threw me on the bed.  Once you did that it was over for me, it was all a blur after that.”

What I’m trying to point out her is just that little action of taking charge, unapologetically leading her to my bedroom and throwing her on the bed, got her massively turned on.  This allowed me to give her an orgasm she had never experienced before, where as she may not have even gotten that far, or been able to fully let go mentally, had I given her the same boring experience she would get from most other guys.  What stood out for her was not the simply the orgasm, but rather the emotions she felt when I threw her on the bed and through out the entire experience.

Now that’s just a simplified example, there’s a lot of things you can do in the bedroom to convey dominance, even dirty talk is a great way to move her emotionally with your language.  Women love dirty talk because it builds up the fantasy in her mind.  However the most important take away here is you need to take your dominate masculine role and lead her through an amazing experience, and this is especially important during foreplay, as it sets the frame for the entire sexual experience.

So dominance and leading in the bedroom is the first one, the second thing to include during foreplay is Anticipation.

As I said before women want men to take the time to include more foreplay, but along with that women often times complain that men get to eager and go right for her “sensitive spots” without letting her get warmed up first.

A boring predictable man sees her boob, and goes right for the nipple

A boring predictable man sees her vagina, and immediately starts oral sex or stimulating her clitoris

A boring predictable man goes inside her and immediately reaches for the g-spot every time.

We don’t want to be that boring predictable guy

In fact, let me be clear about something….Routine and Predictability are the killers of your sex life.

Women are turned on by men who are unpredictable.  Making her anticipate your next move is almost as important if not more important than the move you make.

When I go down to perform oral sex on a woman I like to take my time and lick the entire area around her vulva including her inner thighs and slowly make my way to her vagina and I’ll get near her clitoris but won’t stimulate it until she’s practically begging for it.  By the time I actually start stimulating her clitoris she will be so turned on by anticipating my touch that she’ll be ready to explode.

Same thing with stimulating her with your finger.  Don’t go inside of her and try to jump right to the g-spot or a-spot.  Take your time and softly rub the inner walls of her vagina.  Let her become aroused from you just touching her and anticipating what you’re going to do next.  If you’ve given her a vaginal orgasm in the past she’ll know what’s coming but take your time, be unpredictable, get her to the point where she’s begging for it before you give her what she wants.

Another way to build anticipation is to text message her and tell her all the naughty things you want to do to her body before you even see her.  Start building up the fantasy using your words and language so that by the time you see her she’ll be practically begging for you to be inside of her.

I started a dirty text message conversation in the middle of the day with one particular woman and things escalated so much that she actually cancelled her last two clients, she does makeup and hair, and showed up at my place wearing nothing but a long coat with just bra and panties underneath.  She was so turned on and ready for sex there was literally no foreplay.

This is what I mean when I say to understand that the goal of foreplay is to get her massively turned on, and we can maximize this so that very little foreplay is needed. Using text messages is a great way to build up the fantasy before you even see her so by the time you’re together she’s already so turned on and close to Orgasmic State that just the slightest touch can bring her to orgasm.

The third thing to include during Foreplay is Playfulness

Playfulness is as simple as it sounds.  I’m talking about being light hearted and having fun.  Playfulness is about building sexual context into any situation.  Playfulness is about being a challenge and building up sexual tension in a way that creates lust that needs resolution.

Playfulness is the exchange of teasing or playful banter.  Playfulness is what flirting is all about.  It’s about building up sexual tension between you and your partner.

This is important because a relationship without sexual tension is just a friendship.

Whether we realize it or not we’re constantly projecting our own mental state onto others around us.  Your mental state has an enormous effect on the state your woman will go into.  If our goal is to get her out of our head and to be more present, then we need to get ourselves there as well.  This means never taking things to serious, or thinking to much during sexual escalation.   It means getting out of our logical thinking zone, which I know can be difficult sometimes, I’m a very logical thinker so sometimes I have to make a conscious effort to shift out of that state and become more present.

Studies have shown that during orgasm the thinking part in a woman’s brain quiets down and there is an absence of logical thought.  Women often times have a hard time getting to this state because their minds will interrupt the natural process of letting go with constant chatter or logical thought.

Her mental state and ability to let go and stop all that chatter will be the biggest variable of whether or not the physical techniques you use will get her to orgasm or not.

By making the situation fun and emotionally exciting it will make it a lot easier for her to let go and get to a high state of arousal.

How you approach giving a woman an orgasm has an enormous impact on her ability to let go and actually have an orgasm.

Be playful, be a challenge, move her emotionally with action, not with logic, make the situation exciting and passionate and you’ll make a huge impact on her ability to let go and get to Orgasmic State and she’ll be able to experience incredible orgasms.

So thats 3 great things to include during foreplay to maximize our goal of giving women incredible orgasms.

As I mentioned at the beginning many women complain that men don’t spend enough time with foreplay, they just want to jump right into sex.

The reason women want more foreplays is because they typically need more time to get highly aroused and into Orgasmic State.  Becoming more present and giving into the fantasy of the moment will allow her to orgasm.

Women might not necessarily articulate it that way but it’s why more foreplay helps women achieve an orgasm during intercourse.

Remember, if you make a conscious effort to include things like dominance, anticipation, and playfulness you’ll make foreplay, and the entire sexual experience, more enjoyable for any woman.

The question of “does penis size matter?” seems to be engraved in the minds of men permanently. It seems like there are so many different views on the subject each pulling men in one direction or another and it seems like you can hardly open up your email inbox these days with out getting spam for the latest and greatest penis pump or pill on the market. I’ll be the first to admit it can be quite confusing as to what to believe as truth and what to dismiss as lies.

The main focus of this post is going to help you see through the fog and give you nothing but the straight facts about penis size and what women think about it.

Let’s first discuss the average penis size in men. When we’re talking about penis size we’re referring to both the length and the width of the male penis. Although most men seem to be more concerned with the length then anything else.

Men can quite easily underestimate the size of their own penis compared to other men because of the perception obtained from looking down on the penis or because of the accumulation of fat at the base of the penis. A recent study of men who thought that their penis was smaller than those of other men actually had an averaged sized penis.

So how big is the actual average sized penis? Well there have been several studies conducted regarding penis size and the results typically show that the average male penis is between 5.08 inches to 5.9 inches in length and around 5.0 inches in circumference when fully erect. So you can clearly see that the average sized penis is really not as big as what most people think.

Another common misconception is that you have to have a huge penis to satisfy a woman sexually. This statement could not be more wrong. In fact a large penis can actually be painful to most women.

In fact many of the “sensitive” areas inside a woman’s vagina are not located very deep. Take for example the G Spot is located only 1 – 2 inches inside the vagina and can quite easily be stimulated using one or two fingers.

A 2005 study found that 85% of women said they were “very satisfied” with the size of their partner’s penis, and only 6% of the women said their partner had a smaller penis than average. Another similar study found that women were not particularly concerned with penis size and over 71% thought men overemphasized the importance of their penis size and shape. As you can clearly see penis size does not matter to women and you can easily satisfy a women with a “smaller” penis.

Now that you know you don’t have to have a large penis to satisfy a woman sexually that doesn’t mean you’re in the free in clear quite yet. You see there is much more to being able to give a woman an orgasm then just using your penis, in fact many women will never reach orgasm from just penis stimulation alone.

Some of the most intense orgasms you can ever give a woman can be given through G Spot, clitoral and A Spot stimulation. If you want to fully understand a woman’s body and be able to give her the gift of mind blowing orgasms I invite you to check out my free video where I demonstrate all the techniques you need to know to give your lover a full body orgasm.

Female ejaculation is something that ANY woman can achieve if she is comfortable during sex and can find the g spot to stimulate it accordingly. Stimulation of the g spot is what leads to ejaculation, not urination. Many women get the severe urge to urinate during g spot stimulation, which causes them to hold back because they don’t want to urinate on themselves or their partner. Even though it feels like urination, the fluid that is coming out during ejaculation is actually from the paraurethral glands (on either side of the urethra) and is NOT urine.

Once women understand that they’re not going to urinate during sex, they can relax and let the pleasure and orgasm flow through their body, achieving female ejaculation much quicker and easier than they might have thought possible. Whether this is being done alone or with a partner, it is important to find the g spot, figure out which areas are most sensitive, and learn which stimulation is most effective in this sensitive area. The g spot is an area of tissue that is about 1-2 inches wide on the front vaginal wall. It feels very dense and spongy to the touch, and requires pressure to stimulate because the actual g spot is about 1 centimeter under the area that is being touched.

Female ejaculation occurs at the height of a g spot orgasm and is only going to be successful when a woman is fully aroused and relaxed during the sexual experience. Some women are not as open or as comfortable during sexual experiences, which is why ejaculation doesn’t usually happen. If you want to speed things up, you can use your other hand to apply pressure to the exterior of the pelvis while you are massaging the g spot. You can also stimulate the clitoris simultaneously for a faster orgasm.

Typically, female ejaculation takes a little bit of arousal because locating the g spot is nearly impossible when a woman is not aroused. Once the body is aroused, the g spot area will swell, making itself easier to find. Over 40% of women have reported experiencing orgasms resulting in ejaculation, so it is not uncommon. However, the fear of urinating often causes many women to be ashamed and suppress the feelings. Because they aren’t educated about the process of ejaculation for females, many women become embarrassed when they think they have urinated when in fact they have actually just ejaculated. With practice and education, any woman can experience the height of sexual pleasure through female ejaculation.

Did you know that 70% of women have never had an orgasm during sex and 29% of women have never had an orgasm at all. I can’t imagine going through life not ever having an orgasm, can you?  Learn this G Spot technique so you can satisify the women in your life.

Talk Soon,

Jason Julius